May god bless all of us.
I hope all of you in a good mood to hear what I concern about in this new year term. because what I am gonna talk to you is very important. It is about problems. Every days of our life, every single day we face problems. Every hour, and maybe every second of your life. And in this case, because I stand in front of you, student and teacher, it is students problems.
Students, yes you ! I know you face a lot of problems in this schools such as bad grade, unfinished project, so many homework, bullying, lack of motivation and so on. And probably you also have a problem that you don't even realize it such as no engagement in class, laziness, smoking, brawl, speeding and so on. Maybe you won't admit that as a problems, it is ok. But we, your teacher will consider it. Why? simply because it will affect your education history or your grades.
There is no such an easy way to deal with that things, there is no shortcut. You must face it. But, there is a way to help you to solve your problems. Before we talk about it, I want to tell you about how big is your problems. There is no such a way to really calculate how big is your problems, but there is few things that can affect that.
First, It is your perception. How big is your trouble is depends on how you see it. If you see it as a big problems then you will deliver some fear or anxiety. That anxiety will make you down and can't face that problems and maybe make another problems. But if you think that your problems is small, easy to handle, then you will have courage to face it, to solve the problem.
We are moving to the second factor, it is social support. what is social support? social support is people around you who care about you. Your mother must be, or maybe your friend, or your brother and also us, your teacher. How many friends you got? there is so many people just in the small class. But are they care about you? how many friends that you can share story or ask if you have a problems. If you have many social support then you have a better chance to solve problems. Also It will make you easier to share your problems and reduce your stress.
Now the last one is coping skill. Coping skill is the way you reduce stress when you have a problems without solving the problems. Lets say you have a very difficult assignment and you are afraid that you are not gonna finish it. You become worry about it and stressful because of that. You ask your classmate but he can't help you at all. But, your friends say that all of your classmate cant do the assignment as well and finally you stop worrying about that. Or, you just go to your friends house and start chatting about the funny stuff and the stress are gone.
Knowing that none of your classmate can do the assignment doesn't make your assignment complete. chatting with your friends also doesn't make your assignment complete. The problems are still there but your anxiety is gone, you are not stress anymore. So, you can just face the problem with courage. as I said in the beginning that it is good to not worry about that.
So, we are come to the conclusion that you need a good perception, social support and coping skill. What I want you to do is make as much friends as possible because friends are your social support resource. Come to your classmate, make a good relationship say to them that we can face all of the problems together. That will make you have a good perception about the problems. And friends also can help you deliver your coping skill to deal with the stress and worry that come along with the problems.
That is a little advice from me. and welcome to the junior high school.
wassalamualaikum wr. wb,
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